Married to Angry Men

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  · Here is some wise encouragement for those of you who are married to angry men. Married to Angry Men – The Transformed Wife

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‘The Transformed Wife @godlywomanhood … It wasn’t until took my eyes completely off of my husband’ faults and sins and instead put my eyes only my faults and sins that my marriage began to improve dramatically. We can only change ourselves, women, and have found that as change and work on myself, all of my relationships have flourished including my relationship with my husband!’

For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. (2 Cor 5:10)

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55m  · For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. (2 Cor 5:10)

Bill Taylor Top contributor On our very next date after my wife and I agreed to marry, she asked that I never fuss at her. “I want to love you very much,” she said. “The more I love you, the more your disapproval hurts me. I won’t be able to love you as much as I want to love you if you hurt me.”I don’t want to keep her from loving me. I watch what I say so she can feel safe and rest in loving me.There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. Pro. 12:18Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Colossians 3:19She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs 31:26People who love each other can be hurt badly by unkind words. We try to be sure our tongues are health.Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. 1Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 2And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. Ephesians 4:31-5:2Our sins have been washed away. When God looks on either of us, He sees the purity and perfection of His Son, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (1 Cor. 6:11 ). To be a follower of God, we must see each other and think of each other and speak of each other as having the same purity that God sees in us by His grace.This makes it safe for me to rest in loving her. Men can be reluctant to admit their feelings for fear of being hurt. Jesus sent His disciples out as God had sent Him and gave them the Holy Spirit (Jn. 20:21-22 ). Peter led them to go fishing instead. Jesus fed them and then asked Peter “Do you love Me?”Peter had seen Jesus weep. He knew that if he let himself love the lost as Jesus had, he would be hurt when people he loved chose not to accept the gospel. Having created Peter, Jesus knew that Peter loved Jesus. Jesus’ questions didn’t make him love Jesus, but forced him to admit to himself that he loved Jesus. Jesus’ love made Peter want to please Jesus; he spread the Gospel for the rest of his life.I understand Peter because my dad never admitted to himself that he loved my mother. He said he did:This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. Matthew 15:8He never appreciated the work she did to support his ministry. The hardest thing about being a missionary wife is that learning enough of a foreign culture to share womanly feelings is much more difficult than learning enough to spread the Gospel. When my wife tried to talk about raising me, my mother had felt so unloved and had had so little conversation that she’d forgotten how to do woman-talk. She spoke of leaving my dad.A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. Proverbs 17:22Feeling neither loved nor appreciated dried my mother’s bones. She thought dad would leave her when she was diagnosed with cancer, but he took early retirement and cared for her until she died. She finally knew he loved her, but by that time it was too late. She died at 62; her mother lived into her nineties. Given the choice of 30 more years of life without feeling loved or dying early, she’d have chosen to know she was loved. Being convinced of being loved and appreciated is life to a wife. Don’t dry your wife’s bones.My wife’s care to have the law of kindness in her tongue makes it safe for me to love her. My love for Jesus makes me want to please Him, my love for my wife makes me want to please her. We strive to make our home safe for everyone’s feelings, emotions, and hurts. That makes our home safe for our children.