Her husband is an angry, bitter, and unkind man. He isn’t a believer.

The Transformed Wife

Her husband is an angry, bitter, and unkind man. He isn’t a believer. She loves the Lord deeply and wants to live in obedience to Him. She’s worried about her husband’s eternal soul. He doesn’t physically abuse her in any way, is a good provider, and is faithful to her. He’s just incredibly difficult to live with, and she suffers because of it. She read what I wrote about obligatory sex. She knows it’s true and applies to her since she knows God’s Word is true. She understands that God’s will for her is to win her husband without preaching to him but by living in subjection to him with godly behavior. She asks the Lord for wisdom and to give her the strength to obey him in this area. This is how godly women respond to Truth. They don’t make exceptions and try to get out of obeying. What God asks of us is hard! Everything He asks of us is hard, but it’s good. When we obey Him, even in the hard things, we are storing our treasures in heaven. The question is, are you a godly woman who loves God and His Word and desires to obey Him in everything, even in the incredibly hard things he asks of you?

The Transformed Wife: A TESTIMONY FROM A GODLY WOMAN:I’m going to share this because I believe maybe it might help someone. I have never and would never want to bad mouth my husband. But for anyone who has never lived in an emotional tsunami, you may not understand. You walk on constant eggshells. Nothing you ever do is right, and you live in constant fight or flight mode. You just pray and beg God to help you be a better wife; sometimes, nothing you do is enough. Because the problem is not with you. There is spiritual warfare going on in your home, and you’re just in the way. I recently saw a guy on the internet who said that emotional abuse is biblical grounds for divorce, and you need to get out. He has even written a book to teach you how to leave. Most of the women he councils haven’t been married nearly as long as I have. And although it was nice to hear other stories and realize I’m not crazy. It just struck me as so sad. Someone explained to me how this would bring glory and honor to God. I chose my husband; if I remember correctly, I vowed for better or worse. This is my mission field. Would I bring the devastation of divorce into my children’s and grandchildren’s lives? God forbid! I just keep saying, the joy of the Lord is my strength, over and over. And I take great comfort in reading the story of Abigail. I love that God took the time to say that she had a beautiful countenance. I love that. Like Nabal, if God were done with my husband, he would be gone. So I continue to fight the good fight and continue to run the race. And I don’t grow weary in doing well. I do this because I love the Lord my God with all my heart, soul, and spirit. If I do this to please God, then I have His help and strength. But if I do this to please myself, then l’m on my own. To me, the choice is clear. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Or at least I will. I hope this encourages someone and that God’s Word will not return void.