TOXIC FEMININITY

SOMEONE ASKED ME THE QUESTION: author unknown, “Could you list some scriptures about ‘men’ on this subject about them?”. Gen. 29:21

Bill Taylor You should hear what it says about men!!

Roger FulkAuthorAdmin Bill Taylor … Please tell us!

Bill Taylor Roger Fulk We could put together a shortish paper on verses for men. I have a list in a .doc file; should I message it to you?

Roger FulkAuthorAdminBill Taylor … yes Thanks!

AuthorAdmin Bill Taylor … yes Thanks!

Bill Taylor I have written a lot about that; this is a section of our “Wedding Wisdom” book which discusses verses a man should ponder.Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:25-33

That passage gives more detail about how God created us so that marriage pictures the relationship between Christ and the church:• Christ died for the sake of the church. God seldom expects a man to die to protect his wife, but a husband should “die daily (1 Cor. 15:31)” by dedicating his life to nourishing and cherishing her.• Verses 26-27 show that Christ refines the church. The story of the talents in Matthew 25 teaches that God holds each of His people accountable for all gifts and skills He gives. God expects her husband to help her develop the gifts God gave her to present her to himself, their family, and their church as a “glorious wife.”• You are members of His body. I Corinthians 12:24 tells us that “God hath tempered the body together;” husband and wife are “tempered together” with each other, with God and their church.• Verse 32 speaks of a “great mystery” concerning Christ and the church. People understood how husband and wife should relate so the Holy Spirit used marriage to explain Christ and the church by restating similarities between marriage and salvation.Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath power not of his body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again lest Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. I Corinthians 7:2-5What is the “due benevolence” God expects you to render to your wife? She’ll never be bored and she’ll never find anything better. God calls it fraud if you don’t do this. Hint:The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Proverbs 31:11Husband and wife owe each other grace and forgiveness; it’s fraud if they don’t serve God by giving themselves to each other as God’s good and perfect gifts. God says that the husband’s body belongs to his wife and the wife’s body belongs to her husband.Let thy fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe: let her breasts satisfy thee at all times, and be thou ravished always with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19A husband knows exactly what “due benevolence” he’d like to give his wife, but giving his wife benevolence doesn’t mean meeting his needs, it means meeting her needs.The dictionary defines “benevolence” as “a gift given out of generosity.” A gift costs the giver something, it’s something the receiver appreciates or wants. Meeting a man’s sexual needs is his wife’s benevolence to him because he’s generally more interested in sex than she is and giving herself as often as he wants costs her any feelings of independence. What sort of “due benevolence” does a woman need from her husband?God gave women a drive to talk to help keep babies alive, to help them care for husbands, and to keep husbands from being alone.Women discuss what to do about sneezes, whether this cough is OK or needs attention, and share stories of how old kids were when they talked, walked, smiled, or rolled over. Women share tips so often that TV is full of TDK commercials – two dames in a kitchen talking about paper towels, dish detergent, or some other product.A woman builds relationships every day by talking about whatever’s important to her for hours at a time. If a man doesn’t enjoy receiving his wife’s words and seek them out, she feels unloved.But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased. Hebrews 13:16God put communication in the same category as good works and giving to the poor. God knows it’s a sacrifice for you to talk with your wife about topics that interest her, but He also knows it’s a sacrifice for her to submit to you. When you and your wife become one flesh, each of you must die to self and become one mind as well.Opening yourself to her in talk blesses you because she’ll learn how to please you.Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. I Corinthians 11:1The Apostle Paul didn’t expect Christians to follow him into sin.Acts 5:1-11 tells how Ananias sold some land and decided to lie and say that he’d donated the entire selling price to the church. He discussed this with his wife Sapphira and she agreed with his plan. The Holy Spirit struck them dead for lying to the Holy Spirit.And that servant, which knew his lord’s will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more. Luke 12:47-48God holds us accountable for what we know. Being struck dead takes Sapphira’s punishment out of the “few stripes” category; we know she knew better than to lie to the church.Does this teach that there are limits to your wife’s obedience? Should Sapphira have warned her husband against lying? The better you follow Christ, the easier it will be for your wife to follow you.When he was set down on the judgment seat, his wife sent unto him, saying, Have thou nothing to do with that just man: for I have suffered many things this day in a dream because of him. Matthew 27:19Are you prepared for God to speak to you through your wife?Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind. Romans 14:5Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men; II Corinthians 5:11aWherefore, though I might be much bold in Christ to enjoin thee that which is convenient, yet for love’s sake I rather beseech thee, … Philemon 8-9What does it mean for you to lead your wife by serving her? How will nourishing and cherishing her and praising and appreciating her as taught in the Song of Solomon make it easier for her to follow you?But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. I Corinthians 11:3If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all and servant of all Mark 9:35But Jesus called them to him, and saith unto them, Ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and their great ones exercise authority upon them. But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: and whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many. Mark 10:42-44

Roger FulkAuthorAdminBill Taylor … the media and radical feminists and ‘college WOMEN’s STUDIES ‘ courses have doing it for years, already! NEVER HEARD ABOUT ‘MENS STUDIES ‘ courses in colleges!

Bill TaylorRoger Fulk No need – everyone, including women, know exactly what men want. It’s in Gen. 29:21.

Bill TaylorRoger Fulk No need – everyone, including women, know exactly what men want. It’s in Gen. 29:21.

Roger FulkAuthorAdminBill Taylor … good point!

• Bill Taylor to Roger Fulk From a woman’s point of view, most men are obsessed with sex, men are addicted to sex, men want sex ALL THE TIME. Young men, compared to women, you’re sex fiends. That’s why advertisements use pictures of women; men care more about looking at women than women care about looking at men.Although girls tell me they have some interest in sex, you must understand that from a man’s perspective women have no interest in sex. Compared to men women have no sex drive.Ladies, you won’t understand what I’m about to say; my wife married me in 1971 and still doesn’t understand it, but your husbands constantly want to make love to you, any time, any place, as often as possible, from the early hours of your wedding night “til death do you part.” Whenever your husband sees you, thinks of you, talks with you, whenever he holds you or puts his arm around you, anything he does with you brings out his desire to make love to you, all the days of your life.Intensive care nurses tell me that when a man loses interest in sex, when he’s no longer aware of women, he has only hours to live. Sex drive is fundamental to a man; it’s with him from puberty until the hour of his death.I’m not saying that men think only of sex, that’s not true, men think of other things. I’m not saying that men are always ready for sex, they aren’t. What I’m saying is that compared to women most men are far readier for sex, much more eager for sex, and think much more about it.Suppose you have two cars, one locked in the garage and you aren’t sure where you put the key, the other sitting at the curb with the key in the ignition. Neither of these cars is ready to drive, but which one is easier to get going, the one locked in the garage and you can’t find the key or the one with the key in the ignition?A man is like the car at the curb with the motor running, he’s ready to go at a moment’s notice. A woman is the car locked in the garage, it’s often pretty difficult to find the key, get her warmed up, get the garage door open, and get her going.Women are rarely fired up for sex. Having sex when she doesn’t want it requires that a woman submit to her husband. This is submission because she doesn’t want to do it. If you were eager, ladies, it wouldn’t be submission. Having sex when you aren’t in the mood is submission; going beyond submission by asking your husband to love you when you aren’t in the mood makes your husband feel loved, increases his desire for you, and makes him yours (Solomon’s Song 7:10).I’ve no idea why God made men and women so different, but I’m sure He had a good reason. These differences are consistent across cultures, across ages, across race groups, all ‘round the world. God obviously did this on purpose. Your spouse isn’t damaged or defective, God made him or her that way on purpose.
• Bill TaylorRoger Fulk Why God Made Men and Women Think So DifferentlyGod made males and females think differently to help us be fruitful and multiply. Instead of trusting that a loving God He created us to bless each other, many complain that God made their spouses wrong. Women complain that men are too possessive, too controlling, and can’t find anything in a refrigerator. Men complain that women are too emotional and talk too much.Very few people can explain their thought processes. This short paper discusses the way male and female brains work to give couples a start n talking about how they think. Understanding draws them closer.
• https://successful-marriage.blogspot.com/…/what-drove.
• ..Psalm 68:6 explains that God loved us enough to put solitary people in families. If you don’t see how something about your spouse’s basic nature blesses you and your family, that’s your problem, not God’s. It took many years for us to figure out how some of my wife’s characteristics blessed our family, but things got smoother once we saw that God had given us different brains to bless each other out of love for us.