Nobody wants to admit that God made women for men. God ordained both salvation and marriage.
Admin Top Contributor · · Bill Taylor says… Nobody wants to admit that God made women for men. God ordained both salvation and marriage. If you try to go to Heaven your own way, you go to Hell when you die. If you try to do marriage your own way, you can make life Hell on earth, but if you do it God’s way, you can give each other a taste of the joys of Heaven, right here on earth.There is no joy for a man that compares with having his wife LIKE belonging to him, but he must CONVINCE her that he delights in nourishing, cherishing, and opening his heart to her for that to work. She can make him no happier than he makes her (Ecc 9:9). How happy does he want to be?What makes most women the happiest is belonging to a man who LIKES taking care of her and appreciating her. Proverbs 31:1 shows that it was King Lemuel’s MOTHER who taught him how to nourish and cherish his future wife. Career mothers have neither the time nor the emotional energy to do that, so boys group having NO CLUE how to make a woman happy.Women have a lot more capacity than men do. That makes it so simple to make a man happy that my wife can explain it in under a minute. Note, I didn’t say “easy.” It’s simple to walk from Maine to California – put one foot in front of the other, repeat until you get there – but it’s far from easy.If a man approaches a woman and she thinks it might work, SHE will have to teach him her needs. A man will never listen more carefully to a woman than when he’s pursuing her, so THAT’s the time for her to explain her needs.I was blessed that God knew He couldn’t give my wife to me without telling me a few things first, so the Holy Spirit led her to require that I treat her as a treasure before she’d date me.https://successful-marriage.blogspot.com/…/what-drove…explains what she told me about herself. What she said made me confident that I could meet her needs by taking care of her. That made me feel safe in opening my heart to her and it also made me very much want to marry her. We found later that it applies to many women so we wrote it down for our granddaughter who used it and it worked for her. Her words will help you make a man confident he can make you happy. This will make him feel safe opening his heart to you and convince him that making you happy will make him very happy indeed. It worked for me! SUCCESSFUL-MARRIAGE.BLOGSPOT.COM Marriage Under Threat: What Drove Jesus’ 11 Nobodies to Turn the World Upside-Down?
WHAT MY WIFE TOLD ME BEFORE WE WERE MARRIED
My wife and I have been happily married since 1971. It’s obvious to people who know us, and to most who see us for the first time. Years ago, our granddaughter Veronica asked us why we were so happily married.
As a girl becomes a woman, the way she manages her relationships with men, or better yet, with a man, has a profound effect on how her life turns out. Kids today are subject to many wrong influences, far more than when we grew up. Veronica wanted to avoid the path of marital misery so many travel today.
The strongest influence on a marriage is how the husband treats his wife. The way he treats her is based on what happens before marriage, and most of that is determined by how the woman conducts herself.
Before we were married, my wife told me vital facts about herself which became the foundation of our marriage. We wrote them down for Veronica in the hope that she would position herself to be as valued, treasured, appreciated, and nourished as her grandmother.
HOW SHE KNEW WHAT TO SAY
About a year before I found her, my wife was planning to marry a man she’d dated in college. He looked really good – youth group leader, served in the church – so she asked God if she ought to marry him. To her shock and dismay, God plainly said, “No.”
Knowing her distress, the Holy Spirit brought a missionary who knew her friend well to her college. He confirmed that the flaw God had pointed out would make it a bad idea for her to marry him. When she asked him about it, he huffed, “That’s how I am. If you don’t like it, good bye!” and broke up with her.
A year went by and her friends were marrying. She prayed, “Oh God, please, send me a husband or make me content without one.” One day, as she opened her hymnbook, she realized she’d been seen by a man behind her. “Is this my husband?” she thought. She was thinking of marrying me before she’d even seen me. We had our first date in April and married in August.
She’d asked God to choose her husband. Knowing that I had no idea how to nourish or cherish her, the Holy Spirit led her to tell me astounding things about her. She was embarrassed by some of what she said and had had no such thoughts before saying them. This guidance to me was clearly of God.
Proverbs 31:1 says that Mrs. Lemuel taught her son how to bless his future wife; mothers are better qualified to teach sons how to nourish wives than fathers are. Working mothers don’t have time for that. It’s hard for her to get through to her son because men aren’t inclined to listen to women. The angel criticized Manoah for not accepting what the angel told his wife (Judges 13:13) and Pilate ignored his wife’s advice:
When he was set down on the judgment seat, his wife sent unto him, saying, Have thou nothing to do with that just man: for I have suffered many things this day in a dream because of him. Matthew 27:19 *
There is a time, however, when a man may listen. When he’s attracted enough to pursue a woman, his agenda is well defined and focused. If he’s drawn strongly enough to her, he’ll listen as she explains the terms and conditions under which she would enjoy fulfilling his plans. If he won’t listen, she must walk away because he’ll never pay closer attention to what she says than when he’s pursuing her.
Every man knows that a woman can give him the joys of Heaven, but he also knows an unhappy woman can give him the torments of Hell. What she said was so reasonable and so workable that I was confident I could make her happy. Once I decided she wanted to make me happy, marrying her was a no-brainer.
Veronica couldn’t count on a man having been taught because few working mothers have time to do that. We wrote down what her grandmother told me to give her ideas to tell a prospective mate what God wanted me to know about sanctifying and nourishing my wife. It worked as well for her as for her grandmother.
DATING IS NOT A GAME, IT’S SERIOUS BEYOND MEASURE
Veronica, my best beloved, the Bible teaches that you were made for your husband; he’s not made for you (I Co. 11:8-9[141]). That means that even though your role as wife is of critical importance to your home, your husband, as your leader, has more influence than you do after you’re married.
You’re a mirror, you’ll multiply whatever your husband gives you. Consider babies. Your husband gives you one tiny cell. You gather his life force unto yourself, nourish and multiply his seed within you, and bring forth a child with billions of cells. Every cell of your baby has the mark of your husband’s DNA (Gen. 5:3[142]).
If your husband gives you joy, love, appreciation, praise, and sanctification (Song 6:9[143]), you’ll multiply what he gives you and fill your home with love and light to the Glory of God. If he gives you anger, criticism, or harshness, Satan will tempt you to multiply that and your house will fill with anger and pain.
A virtuous wife “openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness (Pr. 31:26).” A man who’s emotionally involved with you can be hurt terribly by your words even if he won’t admit it.
Real Biblical love is a choice, not an emotion. Jesus loves in spite of being hurt (Mt. 23:37[144]) and so can a man or woman whose love of Christ strengthens (Philip. 4:13[145]), but why should your words make it hard for your husband to open his heart to you? How can he trust in you as Pr. 31:11 promises if you hurt him?
Your husband has the most impact on your life after marriage, but what you do before the wedding sets your value to him. The path God gives you may be different from ours, but as long as you let God lead, He’ll get you where you ought to be. The wisdom the Holy Spirit led your grandmother to convey to me as we courted was vital to our walk with God, so I’m sharing it with you for you to pass along to others.
The next chapter tells our granddaughter what the Holy Spirit wanted me to know before God could give her grandmother to me to be my wife.
Chapter 10 – Saturday Afternoon 4-5 – Wisdom Your Grandmother Shared With Me
My best beloved granddaughter, you’re old enough that the choices you’re making now will affect the rest of your life. Your theology, that is, what you believe about God, is your most important choice. What you choose to believe about God determines what you do, and what you do affects how things turn out for you.
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