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What Drives Men to Marry?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Marriage Under Threat<\/a><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

This site contains papers about how marriage should work. Marriage is simple, but not easy. It’s simple to walk across a room – just put one foot in front of the other. It’s just as simple to walk from Maine to California – KEEP putting one foot in front of the other – but less easy. Marriage is a lifetime journey, not a short stroll.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wednesday, October 09, 2013<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What Drives Men to Marry?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many women say they want to marry, but the way they behave makes it doubtful that any man will want to marry them.  The New York Times<\/em> published \u201cSex on Campus \u2013 She Can Play That Game, Too,\u201d which argues that women are as eager to participate in casual \u201chookups\u201d as men are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time.  She texted her regular hookup \u2014 the guy she is sleeping with but not dating.  What was he up to?  He texted back: Come over.  So she did.  They watched a little TV, had sex and went to sleep.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The Times<\/em> called the woman \u201cA\u201d because she didn\u2019t want her name used.  A doesn\u2019t particularly like this man, but he\u2019s a handy sexual partner.  She isn\u2019t looking for a deeper relationship because she doesn\u2019t have time:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI positioned myself in college in such a way that I can\u2019t have a meaningful romantic relationship, because I\u2019m always busy and the people that I am interested in are always busy, too,\u201d she said.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A values building her resume and her career over finding a husband.  She plans to spend the next decade or so on career development and marry in her mid thirties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTen years from now, no one will remember \u2014 I will not remember \u2014 who I have slept with,\u201d A. said. \u201cBut I will remember, like, my transcript, because it\u2019s still there.  I will remember what I did.  I will remember my accomplishments and places my name is hung on campus.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Sex means so little to A that she doesn\u2019t expect to remember all the men she\u2019s slept with.  She gives herself to men she doesn\u2019t like because they\u2019re good in bed.  Given her history and the fundamental importance of sex, why does she think that any man would want to marry her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex Defines Marriage<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Since the dawn of history, sex has defined marriage.  A woman may guide a man\u2019s house without marrying him, we have housemaids.  It\u2019s OK for a woman to raise a man\u2019s children without marrying him; we have nannies and teachers, most of whom are women.  A woman can feed a man without marriage; we have cooks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman can work with or for a man.  A man and woman may do just about everything together without being married, but there\u2019s one<\/em> thing tradition says they must not do outside marriage,<\/em> and that\u2019s have sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Commitment followed by sex defines<\/em> marriage.  Generations ago, the Bible taught that their commitment meant that Isaac and Rebecca were married without benefit of clergy of any kind when he took her:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah\u2019s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother\u2019s death.  Genesis 24:67<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Mrs. Schwarzenegger had no problem with her husband hiring a woman to help her keep house and help her raise her children.  When it came out that her husband had fathered her house cleaner\u2019s child, however, she divorced him immediately.  In her mind, marriage meant that he could have sex only with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mrs. Schwarzenegger came from the Kennedy family whose members aren\u2019t famous for sexual fidelity.  Despite this background, she was so certain that her husband should have sex only with her that she left him over an affair that had happened years before she learned of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex Makes Marriage Happen<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The driving force of marriage has been known for generations.  Jacob worked for Rachel\u2019s father for seven years.  He saw her regularly; they ate together, talked together, and did things together.  Why wasn\u2019t this enough for him?  Why did he want to marry her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her<\/p>\n\n\n\n

.  Genesis 29:21<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jacob wanted to marry Rachel so he could have sex with her; custom required marriage before sex.  Jacob wasn\u2019t the only man in the Bible who married so that he could have a woman.  Consider Boaz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then said she, Sit still, my daughter, until thou know how the matter will fall: for the man will not be in rest<\/p>\n\n\n\n

, until he have finished the thing this day<\/p>\n\n\n\n

.  Ruth 3:18<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naomi said that after Ruth came back from the harvest celebration and told Naomi \u201call that the man had done to her.\u201d  Why, \u201cwill not be in rest\u201d?  Married women know why<\/em> the man wouldn\u2019t be in rest until he\u2019d finished the thing that day<\/em>.  Have men changed at all?<\/em>  Here\u2019s what Ruth had said to Boaz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am Ruth thine handmaid: spread therefore thy skirt over thine handmaid; for thou art a near kinsman.  Ruth 3:9<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Boaz didn\u2019t think of marriage until Ruth asked him to marry her, but once she mentioned it, he thought it was such<\/em> a good idea that early next morning Boaz runs out, gets witnesses, tells them he\u2019s marrying Ruth, and then what?  \u201cSo Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife\u201d (Ruth 4:13) even though Ruth didn\u2019t attend her own wedding.  What drives<\/em> men to marry?  There\u2019s no doubt at all, men want sex.  A man wants many things besides sex, of course, but sex is what drives him to marry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Man\u2019s Goal in a Relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You see a young man with a young woman, she\u2019s often wearing his jacket or shirt; she\u2019s testing to see if he\u2019ll keep her warm and safe.  She wants a man to protect her, take care of her, talk to her, and appreciate her as God\u2019s unique gift to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What does he<\/em> want?  He<\/em> wants to have sex with her.  If she lets him have sex without marrying her, he\u2019s less likely to marry her and won\u2019t value her as much if he does marry.  Proverbs 31 teaches that a virtuous woman\u2019s price is beyond calculation.  If a woman gives herself to a man without a commitment from him, she\u2019s set her price very low because she\u2019s cost him nothing.  Why marry a woman who\u2019s worth so little?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What could be more basic?  Naomi told Ruth not to give Boaz rest, Boaz wanted Ruth badly enough that he couldn\u2019t be in rest, so he took her to wife that day<\/em>, what\u2019s simpler than that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Few women understand that a man has two possible reactions to sex.  If he doesn\u2019t love her, if his desire is pure selfish lust (I Th. 4:5), having sex with her may make him feel contempt for her as Amnon hated Tamar after raping her (II Sam 13:15).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he loves her, however, physical joining increases his love for her (Gen 34:3); that\u2019s why it\u2019s sometimes called \u201cmaking love.\u201d  A woman can tell when a man\u2019s interested in her but the only way she can tell if he cares enough that they\u2019ll be making love instead of just having sex is for him to marry her first<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many a woman has let a man bed her because she thought he cared for her.  If a man truly cares for a woman, he won\u2019t take her outside marriage because fornication harms her.  When a woman gives herself to man who isn\u2019t committed to her, she usually ends up feeling betrayed.  This makes it harder for her to trust her husband enough to give herself to him as freely as he expected when he married her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A man who takes a woman without commitment may live with her until she becomes burdensome or has a baby, or he may reject her after having her as Amnon rejected Tamar.  If a woman gives a man rest without marriage, if he can have her without making a commitment, what\u2019s left to drive him to marry her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to understand the good that comes from a man\u2019s physical desire.  Most women complain that it\u2019s hard to give gifts to husbands, sons, or brothers.  Why?  It\u2019s because men don\u2019t want anything.  That\u2019s not quite<\/em> true, men do<\/em> want something, but what?  What do men want?  What desires did God design into men?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God knew<\/em> what He was doing.  God planned for women to guide the house, which costs money.  God made men so that if a man\u2019s wife is pleased to belong to him, that is, he can have her whenever he wants her and she lets him know she likes being his by thanking him for taking her, he doesn\u2019t want much else.  Then they can spend his income on the family.  If he can\u2019t have her as often as he wants her, he spends money on toys trying to make himself happy.  Ecc. 2 teaches that that won\u2019t work, but it\u2019s the best he can do if his wife isn\u2019t his.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u2019s Mistake<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A has had so many sex partners that a potential husband will have trouble trusting her to be faithful to him.  After all, she repeatedly rolled in the hay with men she didn\u2019t like because they gave her a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When God brought Eve to Adam, did He have to say, \u201cI’m sorry you didn’t like any of My animals.  Here’s someone I whipped up out of leftovers.  Why not talk to her, you might like her?\u201d  Did God have to say that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from the man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.  And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Genesis 2:22-24<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The very first words Eve heard from Adam were a bit<\/em> possessive.  Adam said Eve was part of him, she belonged to him, he could have her whenever he wanted her, that\u2019s what \u201cbone of my bones and flesh of my flesh\u201d means to a man.  Men haven\u2019t changed one jot since God brought Eve to Adam – men are possessive of their wives.  God made women for men (I Cor. 11:9) so very well that they\u2019re worth having.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adam called Eve \u201cwoman.\u201d  Did he ask her what she wanted to be called?  He later named her Eve.  Do men put labels on women?  Who takes whose name?  Have men changed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a reason men are so possessive.  If a man cheats on his wife, she may feel betrayed as Mrs. Schwarzenegger felt betrayed, but unless he spends so much money on the other woman that he can\u2019t feed her or her children, he won\u2019t put her genetic survival at risk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a woman betrays her husband, on the other hand, he may raise other men\u2019s children and be bred out of the gene pool.  Natural selection favors jealous, possessive men who keep other men away from their women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s more, the social climate has changed.  Society used to criticize men who took women without marrying them.  Now, with no-fault divorce, a wife can leave her husband at any time for any reason or for no reason.  If she leaves, the courts award her the children, alimony, child support, and much of his property.  Marrying a woman makes it possible for her to trash him financially.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage is now no more than a piece of paper; her character is his only protection against financial disaster.  Suppose she says she wants marriage but has sex without it.  If she\u2019s willing to have sex without marriage, marriage means little to her.  Her actions demonstrate that what she says about valuing marriage is a lie.  Why would a man risk his finances to a woman who lies about something so fundamental to marriage?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having his Baby<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Surveys of couples who\u2019re living together show that the woman believes they\u2019ll be married \u201cin a year or two,\u201d but that the men don\u2019t think they\u2019ll ever marry.  A woman may get tired of waiting for \u201cnext year\u201d that never comes and decide to have his baby to get him to marry her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having a man\u2019s baby doesn\u2019t make a man love her enough to marry her.  When Laban tricked Jacob into marrying Leah instead of Rachel, Leah thought that giving him a son would make Jacob love her:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years. And when the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren. And Leah conceived, and bare a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the LORD hath looked upon my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me. And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Because the LORD hath heard I was hated, he hath therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon. And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Now this time will my husband be joined unto me, because I have born him three sons<\/p>\n\n\n\n

: therefore was his name called Levi. And she conceived again, and bare a son: and she said, Now will I praise the LORD: therefore she called his name Judah; and left bearing.  Genesis 29:30-35<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It took three sons, but Leah finally realized that having Jacob\u2019s babies wouldn\u2019t make him love her.  Even Abraham, father of both Jews and Arabs and honored by both, didn\u2019t marry all the women who had his babies:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But unto the sons of the concubines, which Abraham had, Abraham gave gifts, and sent them away<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 from Isaac his son, while he yet lived, eastward, unto the east country.  Genesis 25:6<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abraham got at least two women pregnant besides his wives.  Did he marry them?  No, he sent them away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Giving her Child a Father<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Men don\u2019t really understand where babies come from.  A man may have heard about birds and bees, but deep down in his heart, he\u2019s awed and confused by pregnancy and birth.  Men say, \u201cShe got pregnant\u201d \u2013 reproduction is so mysterious and so miraculous that men don\u2019t really believe they have anything to do with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The pill puts a woman in control of getting pregnant because she can stop taking it without telling him.  She can have an abortion without asking him.  Given that he has no say whether a child is conceived or whether it lives or dies, why should a man care about a baby if it should happen to be born?  It\u2019s hers \u2013 it was her idea, she chose to keep it, and she had it last.  What has the child to do with him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Women have known about men\u2019s reluctance to acknowledge children for generations.  Women used to build up social forces and customs promoting marriage and responsibility.  Now that the societal safety net has broken down, a woman has to demand that a man take responsibility by marrying her before<\/em> she has sex.  It\u2019s really simple \u2013 just say, \u201cNo, and I won\u2019t marry you unless you have a job.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Saving sex for marriage makes it easier for a man to trust her.  If she can resist him, the man she wants to marry, he won\u2019t worry as much about her having other men\u2019s children.  Once they\u2019re married, if she encourages him to take her often<\/em> (Song of Solomon 8:2-3), if she looks up and says, \u201cThat was wonderful, I like being yours.  Let\u2019s do that again as soon as you can,\u201d if she thanks him for his seed, he\u2019ll know she\u2019s his.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Insurance companies have known for decades that married men live longer than unmarried men.  Being without a woman is so bad for men that God arranged that most men die before their wives.  If she points out, \u201cWe could do that more often if you were in better shape,\u201d she\u2019ll give him a reason to exercise.  That will lengthen his life and shorten her widowhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His possessiveness benefits her.  It\u2019s so broad, so all-encompassing, that once she\u2019s his, everything about her belongs to him, including her children and her happiness.  He\u2019ll find that making her happy makes him happy because her happiness belongs to him.  Spending money guiding the house makes her happy and spending money that way makes him happier than anything else.  That\u2019s how God planned marriage to work; why would a man dedicate his life to nourishing and cherishing a woman who wasn\u2019t his?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An Exception to the Rule<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Experience shows that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to divorce than couples who don\u2019t.  \u201cBut,\u201d you may ask, \u201cWhat about Prince William and Catherine?  They\u2019re obviously very much in love, and they lived together before they got married.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For one thing, Catherine didn\u2019t have his baby until after they were married.  If a woman stops taking pills and gets pregnant without her partner\u2019s agreement, he\u2019ll know<\/em> she\u2019s manipulating him.  Few men respond positively when women use sex for manipulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two other reasons why William wanted to marry Catherine.  First, we can see from the way she reacts when he touches her that she very much belongs to him.  She not only acknowledges his possessiveness, she supports it and upholds it.  She likes belonging to him.  That\u2019s important to a man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her showing publicly that she belongs to him honors him before all men.  Proverbs 12:4 says, \u201cA virtuous wife is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.\u201d  There is no shame that rots a man\u2019s bones as badly as a woman who won\u2019t belong to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Second, the documentary about their courtship said that shortly after they met, she found out that he felt trapped in his royal role.  He didn\u2019t think he had much choice in what he\u2019d be permitted to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She encouraged him to decide what he wanted to do and then do it.  After discussion, he decided he wanted to fly helicopters.  He took lessons and ended up flying rescue missions.  Doing something worthwhile that he enjoyed made him happy and rescuing people generates favorable publicity for the royal family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ever hear, \u201cBehind every successful man, there\u2019s a woman?\u201d  Kate helped him figure out what he wanted to do and encouraged him to do it.  Gaining some understanding of the troubles his subjects get into will make him a better king.  Kate\u2019s help is an example of what the Bible means in describing a virtuous woman:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.  Proverbs 31:26<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Kate proved that she was a sensible, loyal woman who\u2019d help him do whatever he chose to do.  A woman can give a man a taste of the joys of heaven by belonging to him.  If she also helps him grow up into the best he can possibly be, she\u2019ll be valued indeed.  Nothing straightens up a man like having a woman lean on him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s no surprise William married Kate \u2013 his heart can safely trust in her because she does him good and not evil (Pro 31:12).  Given her loyalty and her valuable help, the surprise would be if he hadn\u2019t married her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wanting to Marry<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Something<\/em> draws men and women together in spite of all the hurt they inflict on each other.  What drives a man to pursue a specific woman?  Some Enchanted Evening<\/em> put it, \u201cFools will give you reasons; wise men never try.\u201d  Many American valentines have pictures of a naked kid with wings and an archery set.  This represents Cupid whom the Greeks invented to explain the inexplicable.  When Cupid\u2019s arrow plinks a man, he falls madly in love with the next woman he sees and nobody can explain it, not even him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Women agree that men are clueless about women.  Therefore, every woman should think about how a man might decide to marry her.  It\u2019s simple.  If he can have her without marrying her, she\u2019s a bad girl and he shouldn\u2019t marry her.  If she won\u2019t unless he marries her and she won\u2019t marry unless he gets a job to support her, she\u2019s a good girl and he\u2019ll marry her if he wants her badly enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Making him wait for sex gives him time to learn the many non-physical gifts God gave her and gives her time to find out if he\u2019ll enjoy opening his heart to her in talk.  She values his opening his heart to her when he\u2019s not in the mood to talk as much as he values her opening her body to him when she isn\u2019t in the mood for that<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The only way two people can be \u201cno more twain\u201d as Jesus commanded (Mt. 19:6) is for each of them to die to their former individual selves in favor of serving the other.  The marriage has a much stronger foundation if he finds reasons to marry her besides sex and if he learns that he can safely trust his heart in her (Pr. 31:11) before committing himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To paraphrase George Bernard Shaw, \u201cLove is the conviction that one woman is different from all the rest.\u201d  The husband in the Song of Solomon speaks of his wife as \u201cbut one (Song 6:9),\u201d he knows she\u2019s unique.  The Proverbs 31:18-19 husband teaches his children that his wife is better than all the other wives in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Boaz explained why Ruth was unique \u2013 \u201call the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman (Ruth 3:10)\u201d.  Boaz trusted Ruth because she wasn\u2019t sleeping around.  Ruth took care of her mother-in-law instead of abandoning her as most widows would have, so he knew she\u2019d take care of him.  He saw her work hard all through the harvest and took care of her by offering her food, water, and protection (Ru. 2:9, 14).  Ruth was a loyal, God-fearing, hardworking, virtuous woman who wanted to marry him.  What\u2019s not to like?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In older novels where marriage was a side issue instead of the main plot, a woman responded to a man\u2019s proposal by saying, \u201cYes, I will make you happy.\u201d A young lady who had been taught what men expected indicated her willingness to do it in that manner. Nowadays, neither party knows what to expect which is why so many marriages fail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What about A?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A isn’t looking for a husband.  If she waits until her thirties to consider marriage, most men who\u2019re inclined to marry will already be married, some for the 2nd<\/sup> or 3rd<\/sup> time.  Any remaining marriage-minded men will be put off by her sexual history.  She hasn\u2019t tried to be unique \u2013 A treats men like interchangeable sexual appliances and acts like an interchangeable sexual appliance herself.  Her history of treating sex as meaningless recreation will make it hard for her to see her husband\u2019s drive to bed her as a compliment \u2013 she\u2019s likely to see it as oppression and turn him away when she\u2019s not in the mood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God limited a man\u2019s sexual capacity.  If a wife absorbs all the sexual energy her husband can generate, it will be hard for other women to get his attention.  If, on the other hand, she sends him off to work with his shirt soaked in gasoline, he\u2019ll be tempted to get too near a fire and they\u2019ll both be burned (Pr. 6:27-28).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A man\u2019s desire not to raise other men\u2019s children has been bred into him since God invented natural selection.  How can any man trust her not to take up with someone who\u2019s better in bed and breed him out of the gene pool?  Unless she decides to imitate Kate and prove her virtue by putting her energies into helping a man with his career instead of advancing her own, she\u2019ll have a hard time finding a man who\u2019s worth marrying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage prospers when a man treats his wife as God\u2019s gift to him and she acts like God\u2019s precious gift to him.  A\u2019s given herself to so many man that it will be hard for any man to think of her as God\u2019s gift to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead of positioning herself as the treasure God intended her to be, she\u2019s turned herself into a toy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hope for A<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

All is not lost for A.  Salvation promises that \u201call things are become new.\u201d  Jesus told the woman taken in adultery, \u201cGo thou and sin no more.\u201d  True repentance means seeing the sin the same way God sees it and stopping<\/em>.  God gave women who\u2019ve committed sexual sins a way to be clean:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission.  Hebrews 9:22<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If a woman repents of her sexual sins, the blood of her next cycle purifies her.  The emotional damage will take time to heal, of course, but confession and stopping cleanse her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  I John 1:9<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

It will take time for a reformed A to convince a man that she\u2019s ready to be loyal and faithful to him, but if she\u2019s truly saved, the difference between the old A and the new A will be visible to all, including prospective husbands.Bill Taylor <\/a>at 3:37 PM<\/abbr><\/a>Share<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

17 comments:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
  1. myinstantdoodles<\/a><\/strong>November 12, 2013 at 5:57 PM<\/a>\ud83d\ude09 Amazing read! Nicely written!Reply<\/a><\/li>
  2. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>November 13, 2013 at 2:26 AM<\/a>Interesting blog… Thanks for sharing the article because most woman don’t understand why we have to respect ourselves and no sex before marriage. We are indeed God’s gift to our husband.Reply<\/a><\/li>
  3. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>November 13, 2013 at 2:27 AM<\/a>This comment has been removed by the author.Reply<\/a><\/li>
  4. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>July 5, 2016 at 8:34 AM<\/a>Thank you for this. I’ve struggled with this with my current girlfriend (and future wife). This article will me explain why we need to start anew and abstain.

    Society will deem this article as chauvinistic, sexist, patriarchal. Society has become impure and has tricked women into thinking sexual promiscuity is empowering.
    Reply<\/a><\/li>
  5. josue198s<\/a><\/strong>September 24, 2016 at 9:42 PM<\/a>I liked the article too,but what do you have to say to those women who make their boyfriend till marriage while they are fucking someone else?Reply<\/a><\/li>
  6. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>March 1, 2017 at 12:46 PM<\/a>This comment has been removed by the author.Reply<\/a><\/li>
  7. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>March 1, 2017 at 12:50 PM<\/a>Men love sex. Women love money. Holy Matrimony is awesome. God is Great!
    Loved your post! Please write more…    Reply<\/a><\/li>
  8. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>April 19, 2017 at 3:05 PM<\/a>Who ever doesn’t like this artical is living a lie, this was very knowledgeable for me. I had a baby out of wedlock and my sons father doesn’t want nothing to do with me nor his son. Reading this helps me understand why , I didn’t value myself I gave him me before he even knew the depth of my soul .. Just because I was broken .. I let him in .. Not knowing that lowered my worth as a womanReply<\/a><\/li>
  9. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>January 8, 2018 at 3:10 PM<\/a>” I had a baby out of wedlock and my sons father doesn’t want nothing to do with me nor his son.”

    Marriage is just a piece of paper and your baby’s father is a terrible person for being irresponsible for fathering a child and not wanting to have anything to do with (not just you who GAVE him a link to the future), but his kid!    Reply<\/a><\/li>
  10. Unknown<\/a><\/strong>January 8, 2018 at 3:12 PM<\/a>This article is a piece if crap! Seriously?! What backwards thinking is this?! I am married now, but I had a child out of wedlock like the first commenter here and we developed a great relationship because of the friendship we developed and the great memories we shared! Not just because of a stupid piece of paper! What does the half divorce statistics say about your stupid little article?! Notthing!Reply<\/a><\/li>
  11. Adele<\/a><\/strong>July 3, 2018 at 6:58 AM<\/a>Has a guy ever given you mixed signals?

    One minute he\u2019s crazy about you and the next minute you have no clue if he ever wants to see you again?

    And it\u2019s especially hard when there\u2019s something special between you and you have no idea what went wrong.

    I assure you it\u2019s nothing that you did.

    In fact, he may even care about you a great deal and still not be able to stop himself from acting this way.

    But why does this happen?

    There\u2019s one BIG reason why men do this…

    And I discovered this eye opening video that will shed some light on this bizarre behaviour.

    Discover it here: ==> [     Why he does the bare minimum (and what to do about it) <\/a><\/strong>]

    It all comes down to a missing \u201csecret ingredient\u201d that not one in a thousand women knows about…

    And it\u2019s the biggest factor that determines whether a man just \u201clikes\u201d you…

    …or if he sees you as \u201cThe One.\u201d

    You see, this \u201csecret ingredient\u201d is so important to a man that no matter how attracted to you he is, or how strong your chemistry is…

    If it\u2019s missing, he\u2019ll never be able to truly give his heart to you…

    And he will always have an unshakeable urge to seek out a woman who has this one \u201csecret ingredient.\u201d

    Discover it here: ==> [    If he\u2019s shutting you out, here\u2019s what\u2019s missing… <\/a><\/strong>]

    On the other hand, when you know this powerful \u201csecret ingredient\u201d…

    …you won\u2019t believe how effortless, passionate and bulletproof your relationship can be.

    Trust me, this is going to blow you away.

    Discover it here: ==> [     The difference between \u201clike\u201d and \u201clove\u201d (most women miss this) <\/a><\/strong>]

    [Sign off]
    Reply<\/a><\/li>
  12. Arnauld Mwanda<\/a><\/strong>January 1, 2019 at 1:23 PM<\/a>Very Amazing and Insightful … Thanks alot have been helped and enlightenedReply<\/a><\/li>
  13. Kam<\/a><\/strong>May 3, 2019 at 10:56 PM<\/a>Excellent read…Reply<\/a><\/li>
  14. CP<\/a><\/strong>June 17, 2019 at 4:07 PM<\/a>Quite insightful, but I do struggle with how possessive it is. A woman should be her husband’s treasure, but not his property, doing what he pleases even if she doesn’t want to, and she certainly shouldn’t have to sleep with him every time he wants her to so that he won’t look elsewhere. Where’s the part about his love and consideration for her if she’s had a rough day and doesn’t feel up to it?Reply<\/a><\/li>
  15. Mansi<\/a><\/strong>December 20, 2020 at 12:58 PM<\/a>Stupid article. A woman’s worth isn’t in her vagina! If the only reason men want to marry women is for virginal sex then women are truly better off without men \ud83d\ude42Reply<\/a><\/li>
  16. Bill Taylor<\/a><\/strong>December 22, 2020 at 12:54 PM<\/a>@Mansi – you are totally correct, a woman is worth far more as you said. A man hangs around with a women for many reasons, but the desire for six is what pushes him over the edge to commit himself by marrying her. If he can have her without marriage, what would marrying give her that he doesn’t already have?

    A man will marry if he wants her badly enough and that’s the only way he can have her.    Reply<\/a><\/li>
  17. Bill Taylor<\/a><\/strong>December 22, 2020 at 6:37 PM<\/a>@CP – You have more capacity than he does. If you absorb all his sexual energy, it will be very hard for other women to get his attention. If you send him off to work loaded, however, he will be tempted by other women.

    Don’t you expect him t open his heart to you when you need to talk even if he’s tired? You have to watch out for each other.

    The benefit of belonging to your husband is that he will be more inclined to take care of you.    Reply<\/a><\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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