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intellectualtakeout.org Women Who Emotionally Abuse Men<\/a> Mark Judge<\/a> | November 24, 2019<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Women Who Emotionally Abuse Men<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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We\u2019ve all seen it. And heard it. You\u2019re in a restaurant. There\u2019s a man there with his girlfriend. As people are eating and socializing, you can\u2019t help but notice. When the man tries to speak, he is cut off by his girlfriend. She mocks him when he tells a story that might make him look good, and finishes his jokes for him. When the waiter brings the menus, she makes fun of his selection. While she complains about spending money on him all the time, you can\u2019t help but notice that he is paying for all of her drinks. By the end of the night she is berating him outright, and as they exit the restaurant, the woman is in a full rage spiral, yelling about something unrelated to anything that has happened in the last three hours. No one says anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s called emotional abuse. It\u2019s well-documented when men inflict it on female victims. Less well known is when women do it to men. While the emotional abuse of women is discussed on Oprah<\/em>, in bestsellers, and everywhere in pop culture and in academia, there are virtually no resources for men who have been emotionally abused. Google searches turn up very few resources. Books on the subject are mostly broadsides that have not been properly researched and substitute academic rigor for attacks on feminism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And yet every person I know\u2014and I\u2019m betting everyone reading these words\u2014knows a man who has been victimized by emotional abuse. All you have to do is ask around. I did just that recently when I was researching the epidemic of men and suicide, and what I found was disturbing. One man, a friend from childhood, told a story that seemed like a kind of slow emotional torture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When he met his future wife ten years ago, he was captivated by her beauty, but also by her wicked sense of humor and ability to intelligently cut others, mostly pop culture figures, down to size. They were like a team, and had a child together. After a couple years, something changed. Her wit was now more often than not turned on him, first as sarcastic jibes and then as outright abuse. She complained that he didn\u2019t make enough money, and soon he felt like nothing he did was enough. She began to withhold affection, and her mood was so unpredictable that he felt like anything he said or did would be attacked. The sarcasm that once brought him a jolt of joy now cut him apart. More than once his wife called him in an incoherent rage about something he didn\u2019t understand. Strangest of all, she began to lie about certain things yet seemed convinced she was telling the truth. Weeks after a weekend in Las Vegas\u2014which he had paid for\u2014she complained that she was \u201ctired of paying for our vacations.\u201d After the divorce, she insisted on having their daughter on the days when he wanted to take her to play basketball, her favorite sport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My friend had married an emotionally abusive person, and someone who may have even had a serious personality disorder. The effect on him was devastating. He was depressed and felt confused, and even mentioned suicide. He felt anxious whenever she was around. He\u2019s still dealing with it years after the divorce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the few people who understood him was Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, the author of a forthcoming ebook Say Goodbye to Crazy: How to Rid Yourself of that Crazy Ex and Restore Sanity to Your Life<\/a><\/em>. Dr. Palmatier runs a website, Shrink4Men.com<\/a>. She\u2019s one of the few people in the mental health field talking about the emotional abuse of men. In one post<\/a> on her blog, Palmatier itemized the ten behaviors characteristic of emotionally abusive women:<\/p>\n\n\n\n