Marriage is Simpler Than We Think God ordained both salvation and marriage.
THIS WAS A RECENT GOOD POST THAT I SENT OUT RECENTLY AND THE RESPONSE BELOW IS A FOLLOWUP THAT I LIKE: When I mentor women, first listen to them explaining how horrible their husbands are. Then, ask them how they are as a wife… – Earnestly Contend For The Faith Jude 3 (awarningministry.com)
THIS IS AN EXCELLENT COMMENT TO THE ABOVE POST BY A TRUSTED TEACHER! >>> Bill Taylor Parents and churches didn’t have to teach the permanence of marriage in the past because our society required long-term marriages. Divorce was extremely difficult until the State of California passed the first no-fault divorce law in 1970. It’s now easier to get out of a marriage contract than to get out of paying for a refrigerator – either party can walk out for any reason or no reason. Given that our society no longer supports marriage commitments in any way, churches and parents must teach that Godly marriage vows are important to God, offer the couple a taste of the joys of heaven, and have a profound effect on how well children’s lives turn out.
The Wedding Wisdom booklet helps parents or older couples teach the simplicity of Christian marriage which gives both parties a taste of the joys of heaven – the Bible explains it in one verse: https://successful-marriage.blogspot.com/…/wedding…
Pastors tell us that they can’t find a good premarital counseling guideline. Sound Bite Marriage has material to stimulate 4 to 6 hours of discussion of the simplicity of marriage as God defined it. Salvation is two words, sexuality is 3 words, getting married is 3 words, staying married is 2 words, etc.:https://successful-marriage.blogspot.com/…/sound-bite…
SUCCESSFUL-MARRIAGE.BLOGSPOT.COMMarriage Under Threat: Wedding Wisdom – The Simplicity of Marriage
ANOTHER GOOD POST BY BILL TAYLOR:
A man believes that marriage means he can have his wife several times per day or even more if God gives him the strength. Relatively few wives want to make love that often. “Why won’t she do it,” I’ve heard men complain. “All she has to do is lie there!” The Bible warns four times that opening herself to a man humbles a woman (Deu. 21:14, 22:29, Eze. 22:10-11).
We now know that the chemicals a man injects into his wife’s body cause her brain to produce hormones that affect her thinking. She becomes much more relaxed. She’ll lose her sense of independence and feel a desire to cling to him. One woman said it made her feel vulnerable and dependent. This can be very frightening unless he’s made her feel secure, appreciated, and valued by opening his heart to her.
This makes sense – the Bible expresses sympathy for the fatherless or tells others to look out for them 40 times! A woman’s children are more likely to have fathers if she clings to a man who takes her. These hormones also make her far more sensitive to how he feels about her. She’ll be content with being humbled and feeling his appreciation more strongly if she’s convinced that he belongs to her and appreciates her greatly as a person. If he’s upset with her or hasn’t opened his heart to her she’ll feel used like an interchangeable sex toy and won’t want to open herself.
Belonging to a man who won’t belong to her is hard on a woman and makes her very unhappy. If a man loves a woman’s soul, one woman is all he needs. If all he sees is her face and figure, all the women in the world won’t satisfy him. Belonging to a woman requires that a man open his heart. This takes so many hours of talk where he says close to half the words and speaks of topics which are important to him that no man can belong to more than one woman at a time.
This can be as frightening to a man as opening her body to a man frightens her. Having created Peter (Jn. 1:3), Jesus knew how hard it is for men to admit love. Peter had seen Jesus weeping and grieving over the cities of Israel (Mt. 11:23, 23:37, Lk. 10:15, 13:34).
Peter did not want the sorrow of loving people and seeing them fall away (Jn. 11:35). Men are afraid to admit their love for their wives and are reluctant to open themselves for fear of being hurt – they know a woman can vex a man’s soul to death (Jud. 16:16). Jesus poked Peter 3 times and the best Peter could do was to admit to filios, brotherly love. Did Jesus’ questions make Peter love Him?
No, Peter already loved Him – he wept bitterly when he betrayed Jesus (Mt. 26:75) – but he didn’t want to admit his love for Jesus, knowing how love can lead to sorrow. If a man has opened his heart to his wife enough that she’s convinced that he loves, values, appreciates, honors, and desires her as the husband in the Song of Solomon does, she’ll like becoming more sensitive to his positive thoughts and enjoy his desire for her as the wife in the Song does. She will welcome his pursuit, encourage him when he hasn’t asked, and thank him for his seed from time to time as the spirit moves her.
If, on the other hand, he has negative feelings about her, she’ll want nothing to do with feeling his discontent and criticism more strongly. A woman has a thousand ways to evade her husband’s desire and she’ll open herself to him as rarely as she can manage. The wife seeking out and eagerly receiving her husband’s seed and the husband eagerly seeking, receiving, and acting on his wife’s speech by honoring her views, integrating her knowledge with what he already knows, and acting on what she tells him are the two sides of the marriage arch.
A wife communicates heart to heart, a husband belly to belly. Frequent and earnest communication keeps hearts perfect with each other and builds the marriage arch. If either side fails, the arch crumbles. The secret to a man being happy in marriage is to be happy with his wife and convince her. His happiness with her makes her happy to belong to him, which makes him happy.
COMMENT BY Bill Taylor … A wife cannot make her husband any happier than he makes her. How happy does he want to be? It’s so simple that the Bible sums it up in one verse: And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. Genesis 24:67
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